Navigate the Holiday Social Scene Without Feeling Drained
Whether it's a potluck with coworkers or a white elephant gift exchange with family and friends, the calendar is often crammed with social events during the holidays. For some, this is the moment you've been waiting for!
But, many people don't get the same energized feeling from social situations. This may be especially true for introverts.
Marie Davis, assistant manager of TriHealth EAP, says there are plenty of easy tricks you can use to navigate the holiday social scene and have a good time without feeling completely drained.
#1. Check Out the Invite List
Sometimes it's hard to open up around new people. Not necessarily because of shyness, but because of the mental energy it can take to participate in small talk and open up. If possible, learn who is going to be at the party ahead of time. If you don't have close friends attending and would prefer not to show up alone, bring a buddy.
"It can be an introvert like [you may be], someone who understands, or an extrovert who breaks the ice for you," Davis says.
Extroverts, however, often like to stay until the very end because being around so many people makes them feel great, Davis adds. So you may want to plan a separate ride home.
#2. Pre-plan Conversation Starters
Think of some topics, like current events, you'd like to discuss ahead of time. This way, you'll have something to pull from your back pocket if you're drawing a blank and will feel more confident if you're with an unfamiliar group.
#3. Offer to Help
Ask the hostess if there's anything you can help with, like taking coats, bringing out food or clearing dishes. He or she will appreciate the offer and it will help ease you into the gathering. It can give you some time to get used to your surroundings, and you won't have to jump right into conversation with new people.
#4. Take Breaks
Whether it's a trip to the restroom or stepping outside for a minute, taking breaks can help recharge your batteries.
If you are an introvert or more observant than others, you are likely also a good listener and notice more details than others. This can be overwhelming and exhausting.
"I think with introverts there's a common misconception that they're either shy or very anxious being in a social setting and that's not necessarily so," Davis points out. "Some introverts do very well at a party. It's just that they don't find it energizing. It's kind of draining. They might leave the party feeling very tired, where an extrovert may be flying."
When you leave a party, make sure to carve out some "you time" shortly after to relax and regain energy. Whether it's sitting by the fire and reading a book, or watching a movie alone, do something that makes you feel refreshed.
#5. Learn When to Say No
Before you RSVP, reflect on how you're feeling and ask yourself: How important is the party?
"If it's important to your career or your family, then limit the number of those parties you'll attempt during the week or limit the time you've spent at the party, if that makes it more comfortable for you," Davis says.